Sunday, July 3, 2011

Why we're NOT adopting...

I've been working on this blog post for awhile, trying to figure out how to say what I want to say.

So I decided to tell you some of the reasons why we're NOT adopting.

We are NOT adopting this child because he was born in Ethiopia.  That is not the problem. He's not being "saved" from growing up in Ethiopia.  In fact, that's part of the tragedy of his story - that he won't get to grow up in his beautiful homeland.

We are NOT adopting a child because America is the best place to raise a child. Choosing international adoption is NOT (for us) a statement about America.  Children all over the world are raised in loving families. Being on American soil does not make American parents any better. Moving a child to America does not automatically mean a better life.  We are NOT a superior culture adopting out of an inferior one. Not. at. all. That is ridiculous.

We are NOT adopting as a second choice.  Adoption isn't easier, faster, or less expensive than having a biological child (if you've ever read our blog you certainly already know this!).  We're not adopting after 2 bio kids because we've satisfied our desire to have biological children.  In fact, our original plan was to adopt our second child, then have a biological third (no secret here that Allyn was a bit of a surprise!)  And honestly, had we adopted our second child, I have a strong feeling we would have adopted our third as well.  Adoption is a wonderful first-choice for growing a family.

We are NOT adopting as a solution to poverty. We can't solve the poverty issue by assuming impoverished families should just give up their children. In fact, poverty is NOT the same as neglect.  Those are different issues.  International adoption is like a bandaid. There are children who need families now who have been relinquished due to factors related to poverty.  But the real answers to poverty lie in relational programs like microfinancing, education, and family preservation.

We are NOT adopting as some kind of mission project or as "charity work".  I've blogged about this before here.  Yes, God tells us to care for orphans but that does not make the orphan himself a "project."  Charity has an important place in our lives - it is NOT placed upon my third child.

Anyway... lots of people ask why we're adopting. Just thought I'd share all the reasons we're NOT.


  1. I absolutely love this post!

  2. ....such a simplistically beautiful update by a wonderfully beautiful mommy....can't wait, the time is flying by!!! love & big hugs to all, auntie

  3. This is a great post, we feel the same. People are not projects or just some statistic!


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