I read some blogs of people who had created attachment plans with lists of the things they'll do or not do with the child for the first 6 months, year, etc. At first when I was reading through them, I grew a little anxious, thinking "This seems like a lot. And I guess I need to get started on a list"
When I went to Rob to talk with him about it, he pointed out something really nice: Because we tend to parent in the "attachment parenting" style anyway, a lot of the extra attachment stuff you can do is stuff we did with our biological kids anyway. I guess attachment parenting is coming more into the mainstream. Or maybe I just hang out with enough people who parent like me that I think it's more mainstream, but I still do get a good bit of
So while attachment plans that say "no one but mom or dad feeds the baby during the first year" sounds huge, I realized, pretty much no one other than Rob & me ever fed either of my kids during the first year (with the exception of our 2 incredible babysitters who are more like family members anyway). And when I read "mom will wear baby in a sling for most of the day", I thought about how no one at Riley's preschool recognized Allyn when she was out of her sling 'cause they'd never seen her out of it before!
I know this doesn't mean I've got it all in the bag in terms of what my next child will need, but it was really really nice to feel like at least this part of it isn't going to feel foreign to me. I got another little boost when I was reading "The Connected Child" (GREAT book that was recommended to us). As I was reading it, I realized it is almost exactly like Love and Logic, which is a parenting strategy we really like and use A LOT.
PS. This post comes on the heels of yet another night when I missed youth group because Allyn wouldn't stay in the nursery. She is way too nice to say it, but I know that the sweet woman who keeps her on Sunday nights thinks I'm spoiling her by not allowing her to scream and cry while I walk out the door. Attachment parenting can come with some fairly big sacrifices but, for me, the sacrifices are more than worth it! :)